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Moms' Beliefs - Are You Sabotaging Your Own Happiness?
by Julie Van De Wyngaerde, 12/22/2008

Many of our beliefs are created as a result of what we were taught as children. We learned from our parents, teachers and experiences what we should believe and some of these beliefs are so deeply seeded within us, that we are not aware of their existence. Remember as a child being told to believe in Santa, the Tooth Fairy or the Easter Bunny in order to receive the gifts that they might bring? Maybe you even share these same beliefs with your children today. What about you though...what do you believe in for yourself? What beliefs do you have regarding your life as a mom?

It is likely that many of the beliefs that you have and practice today regarding being a mom, were learned from what your mother taught you or modeled for you. There are also cultural beliefs that you may possibly have taken on as yours. When you socialize with other moms you most likely share how life is for you as a mom and you probably feel better when you learn that you are not alone with your challenges. As it goes for most, knowing that you are not alone brings comfort, while it also keeps you living with your belief that what you are experiencing is just life of a mom. What if however, you're not happy with the way your life currently is? What if you would like for experiences in your life to be different, but you take on the assumption that it's not possible because all of your fellow moms are living their lives with the same events of motherhood?

Some of the common beliefs that moms have are that living in overwhelm, not feeling appreciated for all that they do, feeling that they have lost the love and romance in their marriage or not being totally fulfilled in their role, is just the way that life exists for a mom. When sharing the circumstances of these experiences with other moms, who concur that their life is the same way, moms become complacent and "buy" into their reality. What if however, it doesn't have to be this way? What if you are sabotaging yourself due to the "misery loves company" syndrome?

In order to make changes in our lives we must first embrace the concept that change is possible. We must believe that the role of a mom can be different and even better. We must believe that change is possible, if we are willing to put forth the effort. We must believe that we can get out of overwhelm. We must believe that we can feel appreciated for all that we do as a mom. We must believe that we can put the love and romance back into our marriage. We must believe that we can be fulfilled as a mom if we are willing to discover what really fulfills us. We must believe!

So, think back to what it was like as a child believing in the magic of Santa, the Tooth Fairy and the Easter Bunny. Think about what you have in your life now and how you would like your life to be instead. Do you believe that it's possible to create your life the way that you want it? Do you believe that by doing so you will be happier, be a better partner to your husband and a better mom to your children?

You can create the life of your dreams, get out of overwhelm, feel appreciated, have a loving marriage and find fulfillment all while being a mom. You just have to believe that it's possible!

Once you believe that you can create the life that you want, you can benefit from some support in making the necessary changes. Get the support and learn more about how to change your life for the better at Self Centered Moms. It will literally change your life. You can also discover "3 Secrets Your Mother Never Told You...How They Can Benefit You and Your Family" a special free report available at http://www.selfcenteredmoms.com





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